Talking About It

Tips for Talking about your Living Will with Loved Ones

Creating a living will is one component of protecting your end-of-life care. The other is sharing your living will with loved ones—the people most likely to be at your side in an emergency situation.

That means talking about death. With people who don’t want to think about you dying. Awkward? A little. Uncomfortable? Quite possibly. But it doesn’t have to be.

Don’t wait for them to initiate the conversation. These tips will help you take action now to start talking about your living will and advance directive with minimal discomfort to you or your loved ones.

First, try leading with one of these:

  1. “My friend was at the hospital for his husband and they couldn’t find his living will.” (Focus on an experience where a living will would have been helpful—and why.)
  2. “Now that we’re starting a family, we should do everything possible to protect our family.”
  3. “Now that I’m retiring, I’ve been thinking a lot about making sure I live my life the way I want to live it.”
  4. “Now that you’re moving into an assisted living facility, let’s make sure you’re being taken care of the way you want to be taken care of.
  5. “Has your doctor ever mentioned a living will?” or “My doctor told me about creating a living will.”
  6. “My friend asked me to sign as a witness for their Keystone Digital Living Will.”

Next, focus on all of these:

  1. Benefits of having a living will
    • Improves your quality of life by making sure you spend your final days the way you want to
    • Prevents conflicts among family members who may disagree about your preferred treatment
    • Protects loved ones from uncertainty when making a difficult decision on your behalf
  2. Unique advantages of a Keystone Digital Living Will
    • Accessible anywhere, at any time, from any device—which means loved ones don’t have to leave your side to retrieve a printed document that might be lost or outdated
    • Expert video guidance from a leading physician—so you can make informed decisions in the comfort of your home
    • Ability to make as many changes as you’d like, at any time, without needing a lawyer, notary, or printer
    • Electronic sharing and an ID card that quickly lets doctors access your living will

Once you’ve brought up the subject, creating your living wills together with a loved one can help you discuss specific treatment options together so you understand the rationale for one another’s choices. Creating your living wills together lets you make sure your loved one’s future is protected, too. Click here to download the electronic book on everything you and your loved ones need to know about living wills.

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